I have been looking for a verse in the Bible to pinpoint why should you stay pure, and not to have sex before marriage. There is plenty of places in the Bible where sexual immortality is mentioned. But how do we really know being sexually active outside of a marriage is immoral?
If you look at 1 Corinthians 7:1-2
7 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:
It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.
Clearly it says, you are in the red zone for being sexually active outside of marriage.
There is different situations in people’s life’s, you might be very young and you made the decision to stay pure until you marry the one. Wow…that is a HUGE commitment, especially in today’s society! That is straight swimming against the stream girl, and I am super proud of you! That is a great decision you made and I’ll promise you, Jesus will bless you and your marriage for that!
This is not only a position where you should stand because of christian values being applied to your life. It should also be a way of honoring God. Your body is the temple of The Holy Spirit, who is in you and that is from God.
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.
So you choosing to stay pure is glorifying God.
Honestly, I have been there in my twenties living the life of a young girl who lived impure and didn’t meet Christ yet. It was like a sticky note being replaced a thousand times and every time living residue behind.
When we let our heart wander off and live impure, we leave a little piece of our heart behind each time and we get more and more numb to sense The Holly Spirit.
What about people who decided to live pure after they have been living immoral relationships? Like someone after a divorce, like a single women. Women who were following the wrong path? Is it too late for them to change?
Of course not, it is never too late to change our ways and ask for forgiveness.
See1 John 1:9
9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Just like any other sin, we have to repent, so we can move on and grow our relationship with Christ.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Better to marry than to burn with passion? So is passion ungodly? Of course not, but God intended it for marriage not for outside of marriage.
God not only will forgive us and cleans us from this sin, but also He will restore us.
25 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten,
The crawling locust,
The consuming locust,
And the chewing locust,
My great army which I sent among you.
So is there hope? Of course there is, and trust me when I say this, God will convict you in your heart of your sins, when you turn to Him. There will be grief over it, but there will be hope for restoration.
Here is 4 steps you can do to guard yourself to stay pure.
1; Give your dark secrets to God and let Him filly up with the light
Therefore, if your whole body is full of light, and no part of it dark, it will be just as full of light as when a lamp shines its light on you.”
2; Keep your mind and your heart pure.
Meditate on These Things
8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.
3; Start purity in the heart
23 Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life.
4; Guard yourself from temptation
40 When He came to the place, He said to them, “Pray that you may not enter into temptation.”