I am no expert on marriage, or to tell you how to live your life, but I may be able to help you shed some light on things that you may be struggling with as right now as a couple.
We are living in a world that will encourage you to give up before you ever even tried to save your marriage and offer an easy way out of the problem.
We all have issues we bring into our marriage at the beginning, and if it is unsolved can cause serious damage to our relationship. Things starts to pile up on the top of each other and becomes too much to handle on our own. That’s when people get disconnected and think the “grass is greener on the other side”. I mean society is setting us up for failure within our marriage. The message we receive offers no self-discipline, no honesty and definitely not encouraging to live Christ like.
So what can you do when everything seems to fall apart and you just don’t know what to do anymore? You grew cold in your relationship and there is nothing left to offer anymore. Well, that is the time to start praying. It sounds simple and easy but for some of us it is very hard to do. Just lay down your burdens and let Jesus carry it for you!
Whenever we give our hurt and pain to God, He brings us healing and hope through prayers and scripture. We can’t do these things on our own, we need Jesus to bring peace, hope, and love.
“Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
– Matthew 11:28
The best thing to do is not only pray for our spouse, but also pray God would place a desire in our heart that is based on Jesus and what he accomplished on the cross.
You probably say: “Wait…what??? That has nothing to do with me and my marriage!”
Actually it does, that is the key! He died for us because of his unconditional love. The desire in his heart was to give us the opportunity to redemption, to lay ourself down and born again in his love, so he can give us a new life! A new life! You get that?It gives me chills to even saying this!
He is able to do that for you and me! Through the cross anything is possible! So don’t ever give up hope! Yes, ask for guidance but first ask him to cleans you, forgive you for your mistakes and wrong doings. Ask him to give you a good and loving heart toward your spouse. I know, that is the last thing you want to do at this moment, because you are angry and hurt. And how would you be able to love another person when they hurt you like that?…I get it, tell you what…you just can’t….You don’t have that ability. Jesus does, his unconditional love does. So pray, pray like never before! Pray for you and pray for your husband, pray for strength and most importantly ask to have the heart of Jesus! Do you believe that he died for you at that very moment on the cross?
If so ask him to begin a work within you and your spouse and take the first step toward healing. Change begins from within you and then the rest will change in Gods perfect timing. You may ask: “Well what about him(your spouse)? Shouldn’t he change and do all these things? Because after all he is the one who caused my heartache?”
This has to be addressed by God not you. Remember? You gave it all to Him…
” And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19
Don’t give me wrong, in our fourteen years of marriage we have been through rough patches that almost ended up dividing us forever. But with God’s grace and through Jesus Christ we can love each other unconditionally. By all means we are not perfect and we struggle with every day life like most people do. But we have this hope that never fades…
I use to not like this photo(above) of us, because I thought it wasn’t “passionate ” enough. Than I realized it portrays our relationship perfectly. We have this strong and deep love for one another that is completed with our devotion to Christ.
So I am here to tell you, don’t ever give up! God can restore your relationship and heal your heart. There is hope through the blood of Jesus Christ. And if your marriage can not be restored, you know you did the best you could to your ability and now You are in the right place with Him on your side no matter what comes your way.
photo credit by Margie Rockmen