Dating

How to stay pure when you are single

I have been looking for a verse in the Bible to pinpoint why should you stay pure, and not to have sex before marriage. There is plenty of places in the Bible where sexual immortality is mentioned. But how do we really know being sexually active outside of a marriage is immoral?

If you look at 1 Corinthians 7:1-2

 Now concerning the things of which you wrote to me:It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.

Clearly it says, you are in the red zone for being sexually active outside of marriage.

There is different situations in  people’s life’s, you might be very young and you made the decision to stay pure until you marry the one. Wow…that is a HUGE commitment, especially in today’s society! That  is straight swimming against the stream girl, and I am super proud of you! That is a great decision you made and I’ll promise you, Jesus will bless you and your marriage for that!

This is not only a position where you should stand because of christian values being applied to your life. It should also be a way of honoring God. Your body is the temple of The Holy Spirit, who is in you and that is from God.

See verse

1 Corinthians 6:18-20

18 Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. 19 Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? 20 For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.

So you choosing to stay pure is glorifying God.

Honestly, I have been there in my twenties living the life of a young girl who lived impure and didn’t meet Christ yet. It was like a sticky note being replaced a thousand times and every time living residue behind.

When we let our heart wander  off and live impure, we leave a little piece of our heart behind each time and we get more and more numb to sense The Holly Spirit.

What about people who decided to live pure after they have been living immoral relationships? Like someone after a divorce, like a single women. Women who were following the wrong path? Is it too late for them to change?

Of course not, it is never too late to change our ways and ask for forgiveness.

See1 John 1:9

9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Just like any other sin, we have to repent, so we can move on and grow our relationship with Christ.

1 Corinthians 7:8-9

8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am; 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.

Better to marry than to burn with passion? So is passion ungodly? Of course not, but God intended it for marriage not for outside of marriage.

God not only will forgive us and cleans us from this sin, but also He will restore us.

Joel 2:25

25 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten,
The crawling locust,
The consuming locust,
And the chewing locust,
My great army which I sent among you.

So is there hope? Of course there is, and trust me when I say this, God will convict you in your heart of your sins, when you turn to Him. There will be grief over it, but there will be hope for restoration.

Here is 4 steps you can do to guard yourself to stay pure.

1; Give your dark secrets to God and let Him filly up with the light

Luke 11:36

Therefore, if your whole body is full of light, and no part of it dark, it will be just as full of light as when a lamp shines its light on you.”

2; Keep your mind and your heart pure.

Philippians 4:8

Meditate on These Things
8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

3; Start purity in the heart

Proverbs 4:23

23 Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life.

4; Guard yourself from temptation

Luke 22:40

40 When He came to the place, He said to them, “Pray that you may not enter into temptation.”

 

 

 

 

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10 Fun dating ideas for couples

 

 

Me and my husband usually pretty good dates, but I needed to dig up some new ideas to make it more fun for us.

So here is ten fun filled awesome stuff to do for you and your boyfriend or husband!

1; Go and hike at a new place you have never been before. Mysterious walks like this could freshen up a relationship when you have been so busy all week long!

It is a quick getaway and doesn’t cost much either.

2; Go ice skating. This could be a lot of fun and a bunch of giggles if you are like me and not the best skater in the world..

3; Go on a zip line. This could be a little scary but your will be there with you!

4;Go to an amusement park together.Ton of stuff to do and you get to be kids once again.

5; Go fishing. Guys like to fish either fresh water or deep sea fishing. Never know you might just make you partner proud!

6; Go to Goodwill and buy some CRAZY clothes, put it on and go eat dinner somewhere. This could be a lot of fun!

7; Make pottery together. Plus at the end of the day you could watch Ghost with (Patrick Swayze & Demi Moore).

That would be a super romantic date.

8; Run a 5K together.

We haven’t done this yet but we definitely love to go for runs together, so this would be great!

9; Go to a sports event together. Watch a baseball or basketball game.

10; This could be my most favorite thing!

Volunteer together at a local homeless shelter.

I believe volunteering together can bring couples closer since it’s such genuine ministry.

Hopefully some of these ideas can shake up your everyday life and bring you and your husband(boyfriend ) closer together and enjoy life.

 

 

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5 steps to fight sexual temptation before marriage

 

Are you living a life where sexual temptation gets the best of you? Maybe You are dating someone and you are scared he will want to take it to the next level? I have five tip for you that will help you fight sexual temptation in today’s world.

So here you are really like this guy, he has everything going for him. Good looks, charm and he even has good inner qualities. Do you get nervous around him? I bet you do! You might even get anxious when you stay by yourself with him? I think you know why. First it’s just an innocent kiss, then it’s a hug and a long passionate kiss and all of a sudden you’re fighting the temptation.

First let’s look at why sexual relationship out of marriage is not suggested in the Bible.

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1 Corinthians 6:18 English Standard Version (ESV)

“18 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin[a] a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”

The body that is the temple of the Holy Spirit.

God’s will is for us to keep pure, this is our sanctification to be set apart, to be holy.

1; Recognize that sexuality is not something to be ashamed about but understand it is intended for marriage. It is important to be on the same page when you are dating and understand why you guys want to please God according to His will.

1 Corinthians 7:2 English Standard Version

“But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.”

2; Understand that biblical restriction are made to protect something precious not deny something pleasant.

Romans 12:1-2 New International Version (NIV)

“12 Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. 2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

3;When temptation is near that’s when we have to lean on him and pray to him. Just like any addiction we must understand we won’t be able to find it on our own.

Proverbs 3:5-6

“5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; 6 in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”

So set your limits with your partner, know when it’s time to pray. It also helps to avoid to be on your own behind closed doors. Try to be intentional and plan activities that does not focus on physical attraction.

4; choose wisely who you hang out with, who your friends are, who is your one friend who can keep you accountable when you were dating someone. It is not very wise to be around people who live for the party.

1 Corinthians 15:33

Holman Christian Standard Bible

“Do not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”

5; You have to recognize you will be judged for sticking up for what you believe in in today society. When you choose to obey God and his will people will challenge you. Don’t let that move your faith.

2 Corinthians 10:3-5 New King James Version (NKJV)

“3 For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war according to the flesh. 4 For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God for pulling down strongholds, 5 casting down arguments and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God, bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ”

Galatians 5:16–26

“16 So I say, walk by the Spirit,l and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh.m 17 For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh.n They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want.18 But if you are led by the Spirit,p you are not under the law.19 The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality,r impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.s I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.t

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control.Against such things there is no law. 24 Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.25 Since we live by the Spirit,let us keep in step with the Spirit. 26 Let us not become conceited,provoking and envying each other.”

So you just keep on fight the fight and the Holy Spirit will lead you and help you through it all.

God will bless your marriage later on.

 

 

 

 

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To the girl who is dating /What should you look for in a guy

 

Is it really worth to wait for the right person? The question surfaced in a conversation with my husband not too long ago. We were discussing dating and what we should teach our children later on in life.

World will give us  a million reason why we should have what we want and when we want it. Remembering back when I was in high school and I wasn’t a Christian yet, I never even thought it would be possible to date only one guy and  get married. What concerned me was how will I know if he is the right one.Years went by and I was falling in and out of love, lived for my flesh and got my heart broken over and over again. Leaving deep scars for the rest of my life. I only wish I knew Jesus then, and I could’ve applied some of the basic principles to my life  about dating. I would’ve loved to know how to look for a guy who is worthy and righteous.

So what kind of person should you date ?

Have you ever heard anyone say “He makes me a better person? “ that’s it, stay close  to the person who makes you want to do right.

See verse

2 Timothy 2:22 English Standard Version (ESV)

22 So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart.

Should you date someone who is not a God fearing person? Light can not live in the darkness so we shouldn’t live for the flesh either.

2 Corinthians 6:14-15 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

14 Do not be [a]bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness? 15 Or what harmony has Christ with [b]Belial, or [c]what has a believer in common with an unbeliever?

What about a guy who claims to be a Christian but does not live it?

You know that cute guy who gets totally smashed every party and goes home with a different girl every time? I know he is super charming, but so as the devil.

1 Corinthians 5:11 New International Version (NIV)

“11But now I am writing to you that you must not associate with anyone who claims to be a brother or sister[a] but is sexually immoral or greedy, an idolater or slanderer, a drunkard or swindler. Do not even eat with such people.”

What about the guy who has a short temper?

See Proverbs 22:    

“Don’t make friends with an angry man, and don’t be a companion of a hot-tempered man”

Do you see potential in the guy? Do you feel like he’s striving to be a good and courageous man? Could he be a spiritual leader in the relationship or he is sort of lazy?

See 2 Thessalonians 3:6

“Now we command you, brothers, in the  name of our Lord Jesus Christ, to keep away from every brother who walks irresponsibly and not according to the tradition received from us. “

Chris my husband has this funny saying :

“Pick out the ugliest guy in the crowed and see him for his heart, and I guarantee you will fall in love.”

Well, I am not saying you should only date guys with lesser looks, but I do think inner quality is gold and it will go a long way!

See 1 Peter 3:4

“3 Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.4 Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

Date someone who has a good attitude towards Christ.

Romans 15:5-6 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

“5 Now may the God [a]who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus, 6 so that with one accord you may with one [b]voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

Encouragement and support is everything in a relationship.Those are  qualities in a guy that will definitely pay off in a long run in your marriage.

Philippians 2:1-2 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

“2 Therefore if there is any encouragement in Christ, if there is any consolation of love, if there is any fellowship of the Spirit, if any [a]affection and compassion, 2 make my joy complete [b]by being of the same mind, maintaining the same love, united in spirit, intent on one purpose.”

What should you avoid on dates?

I had this unwritten rule: “Do not date anyone from a party”…

Seriously, relationships like this never worked out for me. Partying and getting drunk is never a good and solid foundation for a lasting relationship. How we present ourselves is going to reflect on our relationship. If we have shallow values our relationship is going to reflect that.

See Romans 13:13 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

“13 Let us [a]behave properly as in the day, not in carousing and drunkenness, not in sexual promiscuity and sensuality, not in strife and jealousy.”

Dating should never include sexual relationship it’s in the Bible. See

1 Corinthians 6:13 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

“13 Food is for the [a]stomach and the [b]stomach is for food, but God will do away with both [c]of them. Yet the body is not for immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord is for the body.”

1 Corinthians 6:18 New American Standard Bible (NASB)

“18 Flee immorality. Every other sin that a man commits is outside the body, but the [a]immoral man sins against his own body.”

Remember our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit so we should honor it by respecting it.

Keep yourself pure. Sex itself is designed by God. When our sexuality begins with Christ, it is good, pure and beautiful. God’s will is for us to abstain from sex prior to marriage.

I encourage you to press on and stay the path that’s life giving.

It will be hard at times…But  do you want to live for Jesus or the guy next door?

 

 

 

 

 

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