About your marriage
I am no expert on marriage, or to tell you how to live your life, but I may be able to help you shed some light on things that you may be struggling with right now as a couple.
We are living in a world that will encourage you to give up before you ever even tried to save your marriage and offer an easy way out of the problem.
We all have issues we bring into our marriage at the beginning, and if it is unsolved can cause serious damage to our relationship. Things starts to pile up on the top of each other and becomes too much to handle on our own. That’s when people get disconnected and think the “grass is greener on the other side”. I mean society is setting us up for failure within our marriage. The message we receive offers no self-discipline, no honesty and definitely not encouraging to live Christ like.
So what can you do when everything seems to fall apart and you just don’t know what to do anymore? You grew cold in your relationship and there is nothing left to offer anymore. Well, that is the time to start praying. It sounds simple and easy but for some of us it is very hard to do. Just lay down your burdens and let Jesus carry it for you!
Whenever we give our hurt and pain to God, He brings us healing and hope through prayers and scripture. We can’t do these things on our own, we need Jesus to bring peace, hope, and love.
“Come to Me, all of you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
– Matthew 11:28
The best thing to do is not only pray for our spouse, but also pray God would place a desire in our heart that is based on Jesus and what he accomplished on the cross.
You probably say: “Wait…what??? That has nothing to do with me and my marriage!”
Actually it does, that is the key! He died for us because of his unconditional love. The desire in his heart was to give us the opportunity to redemption, to lay ourself down and born again in his love, so he can give us a new life! A new life! You get that?It gives me chills to even saying this!
He is able to do that for you and me! Through the cross anything is possible! So don’t ever give up hope! Yes, ask for guidance but first ask him to cleans you, forgive you for your mistakes and wrong doings. Ask him to give you a good and loving heart toward your spouse. I know, that is the last thing you want to do at this moment, because you are angry and hurt. And how would you be able to love another person when they hurt you like that?…I get it, tell you what…you just can’t….You don’t have that ability. Jesus does, his unconditional love does. So pray, pray like never before! Pray for you and pray for your husband, pray for strength and most importantly ask to have the heart of Jesus! Do you believe that he died for you at that very moment on the cross?
If so ask him to begin a work within you and your spouse and take the first step toward healing. Change begins from within you and then the rest will change in Gods perfect timing. You may ask: “Well what about him(your spouse)? Shouldn’t he change and do all these things? Because after all he is the one who caused my heartache?”
This has to be addressed by God not you. Remember? You gave it all to Him…
” And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:19
Don’t get me wrong, in our fourteen years of marriage we have been through rough patches that almost ended up dividing us forever. But with God’s grace and through Jesus Christ we can love each other unconditionally. By all means we are not perfect and we struggle with every day life like most people do. But we have this hope that never fades…
I use to not like this photo(above) of us, because I thought it wasn’t “passionate ” enough. Than I realized it portrays our relationship perfectly. We have this strong and deep love for one another that is completed with our devotion to Christ.
So I am here to tell you, don’t ever give up! God can restore your relationship and heal your heart. There is hope through the blood of Jesus Christ. And if your marriage can not be restored, you know you did the best you could to your ability and now You are in the right place with Him on your side no matter what comes your way.
Husbands and Wives
This blog may not be as popular as other “run freely and do what feels good” messages, but I would like to share my thoughts on this subject. In today’s society men are not embraced, especially not Godly men. It is all about girl power, it is all about “I don’t need a man ” attitude. I understand some of us experienced rough relationships, abusive relationships, physically or mentally abusive relationships and women had enough of men not stepping up to the plate and fulfill their roll as a spiritual leader of the family .But let’s be honest, it is not appreciated to be a morally and spiritually good man anymore! Not to make an excuse for any man…
For what it’s worth I love to be cared for! I love that I have someone to take care of me when I needed, I love that I can be spoiled at times by my husband, and no I don’t want to change the oil in my vehicle and mow the grass unless I have to. That doesn’t mean I refuse to, or I wouldn’t do it if I needed to, but I rather see my sexy husband do that. Just like I don’t expect him to take uppon baking and cooking all the time, unless the circumstencies dictate differently or he loves to cook. I’m sure you understand what I mean by all this. I will not be competing with a man, because I was created differently and I don’t mind that.
So I am here to tell you men, we need you! We need you to be a good man, we need you to be a good husband a good brother, good dad, a good son… etc
Ok ,let me just say this…I am a very independent woman, and like to have my space like a wild horse and my husband knows this. I am the happiest when I run freely, but all farmland has a fence that keeps the farm animals inside of the fence. I am running wild in the fenced area of Jesus in my heart and my husband is there to stir me, to help me keep focus on Jesus. But what’s the coolest is that God gave me free will to choose to stay inside of the fence. As long as I stay in that area he will protect me and my family.
But let’s talk about what God intended for a marriage to be like. Before we do that, let’s look at the Bible and the very beginning .
“The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat of it you will surely die.” (NIV, Genesis 2:15-17)
In Genesis before Eve was created, God warned Adam not to eat the forbidden fruit, and it was his responsibility to communicate that to his wive. Obviously he didn’t do a very good job. He lost his position and his home. Satan approached Eve with the idea of disobeying first. Adam was with her at the time and he fell to lead her. So when men falls to listen to God and obey Him, he can’t be the leader of the family. This opens the door to Satan and allows him to come in and cause chaos in the family. The issue in marriage isn’t about who is the boss, it’s about honoring the structure God created for us.
The Bible says Satan comes to “steal, kill, and destroy ” – Jn 10:10
But when a husband is truly submitted to God he will be able to protect his family. It is not about taking control over his wife and live in an abusive controlling relationship , it is about a man laying down the foundation that is spiritually and moraly right.
I see a beautiful picture here, when the man/husband is the spiritual leader of the family and he is aligned with Jesus in his heart vertically, than he is ready to love and minister his family horizontally.
Ok so here it is to you wives:
When our husband is the follower of Christ, our job is to support him, so he can stay on this path with Jesus. We should always encourage them, pray with them, make discisions together … etc It is teamwork that keeps a good marriage going.
Our husband should not be a dictator, rather be loving and try to stir us to the right direction when we are wondering away, and this applies to us the same. It is sort of like an accountability group to keep eachother acountible every day .
10 Fun dating ideas for couples
Me and my husband usually pretty good dates, but I needed to dig up some new ideas to make it more fun for us.
So here is ten fun filled awesome stuff to do for you and your boyfriend or husband!
1; Go and hike at a new place you have never been before. Mysterious walks like this could freshen up a relationship when you have been so busy all week long!
It is a quick getaway and doesn’t cost much either.
2; Go ice skating. This could be a lot of fun and a bunch of giggles if you are like me and not the best skater in the world..
3; Go on a zip line. This could be a little scary but your will be there with you!
4;Go to an amusement park together.Ton of stuff to do and you get to be kids once again.
5; Go fishing. Guys like to fish either fresh water or deep sea fishing. Never know you might just make you partner proud!
6; Go to Goodwill and buy some CRAZY clothes, put it on and go eat dinner somewhere. This could be a lot of fun!
7; Make pottery together. Plus at the end of the day you could watch Ghost with (Patrick Swayze & Demi Moore).
That would be a super romantic date.
8; Run a 5K together.
We haven’t done this yet but we definitely love to go for runs together, so this would be great!
9; Go to a sports event together. Watch a baseball or basketball game.
10; This could be my most favorite thing!
Volunteer together at a local homeless shelter.
I believe volunteering together can bring couples closer since it’s such genuine ministry.
Hopefully some of these ideas can shake up your everyday life and bring you and your husband(boyfriend ) closer together and enjoy life.