Your Soul / Women’s Ministry

Detox your soul

Have you ever felt like you are not moving forward ? You are keep trying to walk the

walk,  but something is missing?  Keep hitting walls and unable to move forward?  Do

you feel like something or someone is holding you back?  Oh my Goodness,  I remember

when I was there and I was just going in circles and couldn’t get out of this crazy

roller coaster.  It just made me feel so miserable !  I couldn’t explain what was wrong, but

I knew something was not right with me. There was this  “thing” holding me down and

kept me away from growing in my faith. The root of it all was the unresolved pain in my

heart.  Through our lifetime we all experience hurt, pain, fear …etc . Question is how can

we overcome these things and begin the process of healing. The truth is if we give all of

these difficulties to God we will have a 100% success rate, but on our own we will be

miserable and we will not be able to grow in our relationship with Christ.  Let me show

you a few steps that could  help you overcome any struggles you may have in your life

right now.

Examine your life. What could be the reason you are stuck where you are?

Is it shame, guilt, fear or anger? For me it was all of the above, but most of all I was

struggling with anger and bitterness.  The word anger means : “intense emotional

response,  an emotion that involves a strong uncomfortable and emotional response to a

perceived provocation, hurt or threat . “

When we feel threatened or manipulated by others we shot down and try to protect

ourselves.  Anger will take over our heart, and depending on how we react to it will be

the key.  The Bible talks about righteous anger like in

Eph 4:26-27

” Be angry , and yet do not sin ;Do not let the sun go down on your anger ,And do not give the devil an opportunity . “


 We see God’s righteous anger in the Bible, that is an expression of the anger that is

consistent with the character of God , holy and righteous . Our anger

should not be explosive but slow.

Proverbs 19:11

A man’s discretion makes him slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook a


And just when I  thought I was  on the right path,  there came  the mountain of

trials  that thought me a whole lot about myself.  As a mom lot of times I have to catch

myself and  think about my actions and ask the question.  Did it worth to get angry over

the situation?

Stressful situations will oppress into our life , that’s when we just want to blow up and

say hurtful things to our kids, our spouse, friend or family members. But how can we

show the light if we do not practice righteous anger? This kind of  anger is always under

control, rather than anger taking control over us . It’s important to keep align with our

creator and not let our anger to turn into bitterness, hatred and revenge .

We need to make sure we forgive others their wrongdoings, because without this we will

be unable to move forward.

Bitterness and hatred tunes out the voice of God, sin takes over and we are no longer

able to make rational decisions . Focus on Jesus and don’t let darkness take over your

emotions .

 Eph 4:31-32

31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice . 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you .
Second of all identify your hurt if you are not sure where it comes from ask God to revile it to you . For the proper healing in our heart we must find the cause .In these difficult times if we depend on Jesus he will carry us through all the pain and hurt and he will guide us to heal our souls and spirit .

James 5:16

16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.

Once we go through on the process of forgiving others, all the weight will be lifted off of

our shoulder. We know we are in the will of God and our perspective will change



                    How is your self esteem ?

Dear friend ,

I just wanted you to know when you feel challenged by harsh words of others making

you feel insignificant don’t mind them! First of all, it is an issue within them not you!

Don’t you ever believe what they make out you to be! Through the blood of Jesus Christ

you are beautiful! He creates beauty out of ashes, so don’t you ever believe anything else!

Isaiah 61:3

“3 To all who mourn in Israel, he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair. In their righteousness, they will be like great oaks that the Lord has planted for his own glory.”
When our self confidence is low, we either totally give up or go to the extreme by striving to be perfect. Honestly I was that girl and I still am sometimes.

I am a perfectionist. At times I whole heartedly believe I should be perfect for God, to

honor him.

This is a bit complex,  because we all know we should always strive to be the best version

of ourselves, but we should not forget that He sent His Son to die for our sins . He is the

absolute perfection, nobody can measure up to Him!

You don’t have to get anxiety over being perfect! Like I do sometimes… Your acceptance

with God isn’t based on who you are, but who’s you are .

Deuteronomy 7:9

9 Know therefore that the Lord your God is God he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.

How is your selfesteam?


Do you have trust issues?

I see this issue in some shape or form daily.People’s trust is gone and we refuse to let

others get to know us or get close to us anymore.Is it because we fear their judgement or

we fear getting hurt again for the 100th time ? Or we just want to guard our heart from

disappointment? Maybe is it just because we don’t have the energy for the details in a

good friendship anymore?

I catch a lot of women on social media talking about how their circle of friends is so

small that practically there is no one there anymore.

That is a very lonely way to be.Does this sound familiar?Trust me I have been there,I

know and let me tell you something , it is a sad sad way to be! But I am here to team up

with you and create an amazing friendship with you through Jesus Christ .

Even the people who has a tribe of friends and showing a glamorous life on social media get lonely.Do you know why ?

We are living times where everyone wants everything instantly.We don’t want to go the

extra mile to nurture a relationship.Some people can buy friendships/relationships

others long to have someone around to benefit them. A good relationship takes a lot of

work,nurturing,patience and kindness.

I teach my kids to “Be kind and loving!” always .Those things are forever valuable in my

opinion.But how can we have valuable friendships when we can’t even go the extra mile

for our spouse or immediate family members?We were not created to be lonely and

distant with each other. We were meant to love one another! That’s exactly what we all

want ,be loved!

Dark forces want us women to be broken apart,have jealousy and envy toward one


So my friends we have work to do !

Are you ready to find out how your action can make a difference today ,right now in this


Every positive action shifts this whole universe towards the light .

Come and join our women’s ministry and let’s do the leg work together!




Find your identity 

What a beautiful day today is! God shed a light on some things that I felt the need to

share and was ground breaking for me!

It was about self identity.I am blown away how much I was consumed by everything els

and didn’t see clearly before.The fear of judgement by others for owning what my call is ,

feeling lost , feeling as a failure not having a successful “career” .Putting all these things

in front of me made me spinning in circles!Only the enemy wants us to find our identity

in what we do ,because he knows when the “success” is gone so is our value.

You see , God’s love is unconditional he died for us sinners so he doesn’t just love us

because we do something for that love. He loves us at all times .His love is not defined by

our actions so you and me can NEVER be a failure!

The source of our value and worth is in Jesus Christ and his unconditional love . As soon

as we let that sink in we can be free of feeling like a failure.

My God and savior died for me ,so my place and value is in Him.His love forever endures

no matter the circumstances,rather be success in a career or financial situation.No more

worries about others opinions it is just me and Him.

I am here … now…raw in my faith with my sinful body standing in my father’s light

soaking in the LOVE he has for me .Everything els fades away, because He loves me .


               Unpacking the pain and fear

The other day I was listening to a speaker who was talking about pain. Well I thought

yeah-yeah… I don’t have all that much pain in my life . – Thank God ! –

There are people out there suffering in deathly illness, some people are unhappy because

their spouse betrayed them, their children are dying. What can I complain about?

My parents are together in a strong and good marriage, my husband is the most amazing

guy I could ever ask for and  we have two beautiful children! I felt guilty to feel any pain

when I look at others and see how much they suffered.For this very reason, I never

wanted to face fear or pain because I’m supposed to be strong, my life is not falling apart

so therefore I should not complain just be thankful for what I have!

But you know what ? Life isn’t perfect and that’s a lie to think my pain in my life doesn’t

worth to be talked about. It does !

Everyone of us is struggling with something,no such a thing as perfection! I struggle with

anxiety and self-doubt and I put everything that’s hurtful in a box and put it on this “

shelf ” , hoping I will never have to deal with it again.Just keep it hidden away from


Can you relate?

It is so much easier just to pretend it’s not there anymore. Except when I start crying for

no reason because the box has been put up there for way too long !…

How can we unpack that box? How can we take everything out and except it ?

That’s just it !…Can we just take our time and just let that pain saturated in? Can we just

become that pain and let it work through in us ?I believe God allows us pain and

suffering so we can find him and gain strength in the midst of all. It is that journey that

will take us to the next level to be able to move on.Listen ,  it is absolutely necessary just

to let us be in that pain and understand our emotions and just let it be. How can we look

forward to heal if we do not unpack the box?

Unpacking :

1; Don’t be scared to face fear !

2; Pray to God to show you the deep-rooted feelings that has been buried for a while .

3; Let the pain enter your heart and soul .

( The reason why our society overly use medication is because we want an instant way out to numb the pain.)

4; Let the pain unite with your soul !

5; Now that you are aware of this, healing can begin!

Ask Jesus to start repairing the broken pieces and believe in a new day because through him everything is possible !

He gives us HOPE in our darkest time.

Journal through this process, it is amazing what we can write down that we would never

say out loud ! Let the pen flow,let God fill up those empty places in your heart !

Psalm 147:3
“He heals the broken-hearted and binds up their wounds”

James 5:16
“Confess your trespasses to one another and pray for one another that you may be healed .The effective fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.”

2 Chronicles 7:14
” if my people who are called by My name will humble themselves,  and pray and seek My face and turn from their wicked ways ,then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land . “


How to be a good BFF

Why do we need a good friendship? I am not talking about casual acquaintances who are

there for the gossip or know you just so they can say they “know you”. I am talking about

a good ,real friendship a true friendship. What does the Bible say about all this?

“Iron shapes iron, So one man sharpens another “

Proverbs 27:17

Constructive criticism can be a precious link between friends. Iron rubbed against iron shapes and sharpens it. In the same way discussion and soul-searching interaction between friends brings obvious changes.
“A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.”

A friend will love at all times no matter what the circumstances are. A real friend

will stick around even when the storm is rough .

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”

 Proverbs 27:6
This is the type of friend who we need, the one who is not out to say flattering things to us but to point out when we are wrong.This is so important! Wouldn’t you want someone who cares for you that much and loves you unconditionally?Yep, that is it! That is a good friend!
How to be a good friend?
Well in this area I had a really hard time because I am naturally very selfish .

I know there is some of you who is a “people pleaser” and you are having a hard time

because you are trying to make everyone happy. You are too busy because you just can’t

say NO to others.You guys definitely should just take it easy and focus on more quality

time with your family and just quit trying to make everyone happy!
What about people like me?

We like to say : “I just don’t have enough time”

I don’t have time to worry about others. It is too yucky and I already have enough on my

own.Honestly making an effort to be a good friend takes a whole lot, but because you

give love it feels so right!Caring for others and being kind, being there for someone when

there is no one else takes effort and you have to seek out the opportunity. All you have to

do is open your eyes and see what people need, what your friends need. We are here to

“LOVE”one another, to be there for each other, to make time when it’s needed. Be in the

moment and laugh or cry together. Whatever it is put your selfish ways to the side and

be there and show up!

Be loyal,be a good friend even during the yucky parts!

Acknowledge and recognize, give them your heart and attention. Let them know they are


Appreciate your friends. Everyone wants to be appreciated even You. So why wouldn’t

we do this for others?Family and friends all need to know they are important.

A real and true friendship is hard to find. Cherish the people around you!

See John 15:13

” Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.”
When we act according to the scripture we are glorifying God. That is what life is all about!Honoring Him in your relationships.Just be thankful for his mercy and kindness toward all of us.










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